“We are all just one small adjustment away from making our lives work.”
–Paul Rudd in How Do You Know?
A life well lived is one that involves discipline, reflection and the conscious awareness of our present actions on our future.
It is quite easy in our day-to-day lives to enjoy instant gratification, after all, drive-thrus and fast food were created to appease such a desire, but is instant gratification something we should indulge?
Upon hearing the quotations above over the past weekend, I began to mull over its validity. Could this be true? It is really as simple as making one small adjustment?
I think the key word is “small” and while many may say that the adjustments that are necessary in their lives to make it work are far from small, I would argue that we are giving these adjustments more power then they deserve. I would argue that it is we who are standing in the way and making it more difficult than it needs to be. I would argue that it truly is a small adjustment, a simple change of perception – focusing instead on the magnificent benefits that will be appreciated in the future, instead of clinging to the instant fulfillment at the moment which will evaporate in a matter of moments.
If we can step back from the present situation that is giving us fits (savoring one more cookie even though we’ve vowed to watch our sugar intake, or purchasing another pair of fabulous shoes even though we know we can’t afford it), and act in a way as if we are parenting ourselves, looking out for our own well-being, making a prudent decision now that will be behoove us much more in the long run and reap far more abundance and lasting fulfillment down the road, then it really is a small adjustment. It is a matter of perception.
In an issue of Vogue a handful of years ago, Jennifer Aniston made a statement that continues to remain in my mind. She stated,
“Everything you want in the world is just outside your comfort zone. Everything you could possibly want.” –Jennifer Aniston Vogue December 2008
Such a statement holds weighty truth that serves as a reminder that we all are the master of our destiny. We all have the potential of creating the life we covet. We all have the opportunities, however, we must accept that it requires a change within us, if we wish to see a change in our current situation.
The small adjustment needed may be in your relationships, your health, your career, or something else entirely. But keep in mind that whether it be putting up firmer boundaries, becoming more disciplined with your saving habits, ignoring feelings of lust and choosing to get to know someone’s true character first, or by simply taking a risk by asking for a raise or seeking out advice, be sure you are tackling it from the direction of what needs to be changed by you, within you, for yourself because as we all know, we only have control over our own actions, and we must take responsibility for them if we wish to attain a contented and fulfilling life.
I hope this post finds you well and may the week be off to a promising start. Thank you for stopping by and feel free to share your experience with this approach to life. I would love to hear your stories.