As an American, I stand proudly to cheer for my nation, but what I’ve come to learn is that there is a sophistication that I am observing in London that can easily be incorporated into our lives in America to soften the edges, add a bit of intrigue and make life a bit more pleasurable and fulfilling. Perhaps it is the people I have been fortunate to be surrounded by, dine with and experienced day-to-day events with while here, but I do believe there is a certain je ne sais quoi that can be brought back to the states.
Instead of desiring a need to “get wasted”, why not choose a delicious wine or thirsty-quenching lager, savor one or two glasses in an evening and simply light a gentle spark to make the evening special and enjoyable? Instead of wearing a mid-thigh reveling skirt paired with a cleavage popping top, opt for an exquisite silk dress that drapes your body, hinting at what might be found, not proving explicitly what will be discovered?
Also, choose to flirt simply to flirt not to being aggressive and wanting something more. Both men and women want to feel as though they are attractive, and a bit of subtle flirting (as long as it stops there), is more a compliment than an act of disrespect if handled properly.
Lastly entertainment. There is a respect for intelligence and academia in Europe that I have fallen in love with. Being cute does not get you as far, which is a delight indeed. You must be knowledgeable of the language, culture and slang. You must attempt to show deference to the culture you are immersing yourself in. In other words, you must be well-rounded, continually curious and strong enough to speak your mind. To know the basics of politics, history, art and religion will help significantly. And any culture that values continued education is a very good thing in my book.
More than anything, as someone who is admittedly an “A” type personality, I want to know the outcome and how it will work out, and being subtle, at least on the surface, is not conducive to knowing ahead of time. It requires each of us to be confident in who we are and what we have to offer, and an acceptance that if it wasn’t meant to be, to be able to let go and move on with grace. The mystery is what makes it magical. However, it is also what makes it excruciating if we confine ourselves to the “need to know” way of living.
To avoid this feeling of unknowing, choose instead to find the fine line between tell-all and being a closed and locked book, and choose instead to dance in the middle which is attractively intriguing. As humans we are curious creatures. As humans we are drawn to what is dangled in front of us, but not revealed. As humans we will find an inner calm, a more balanced life when we choose to become more subtle with our behavior . . . ultimately creating a more fulfilling life.